the guys next door
Director: Amy Geller and Allie Humenuk
Runtime: 74 mins
Pre Book: 5/9/17
GENRES: documentary, LGBT, gender studies, family studies
Who, among us, can say that we come from a “normal” family? The Guys Next Door, a
feature length documentary, offers an alternative to the traditional ideas of what constitute the
nuclear American family. Meet Erik and Sandro, a gay couple with two daughters birthed by
their friend Rachel with donor eggs. In her 40s, Rachel is married to Tony and they have three
biological children of their own.
Rachel and Tony, a seemingly traditional married couple, live in the suburbs of Massachusetts
with their children. Inspired by a TV program about the difficulties and costs associated with
gay couples having children, Rachel, age 41, volunteers to be a surrogate – not once, but twice
within two years – for Erik, her good friend from college, and his husband Sandro, an Italian
This film begins when Rachel is eight months pregnant with Erik and Sandro’s second
daughter, Eleonora. What compels a woman in her forties with three children of her own to
carry children for friends? What is the reaction of her husband and children? And, how will Erik
and Sandro handle the challenges of parenting two girls in a world that still emphasizes the
importance of maternal instinct?
The issues raised in this film - gay marriage and parenting, surrogacy as a path for gays and
lesbians to have children, and the extension and redefinition of what it means to be “an
American family" - remain relevant as our country is a cultural battleground during the divisive
2016 presidential election. The Guys Next Door is a powerful antidote to the negative
backlash and hateful rhetoric aimed at same sex families. In the words of the esteemed documentary filmmaker Ross McElwee (Sherman’s March), “with nuance, verve and humor, this film goes well beyond issues of surrogacy and gay parenthood and explores the humanity that connects us all.